Dressing and the art if seduction

On a weekly men’s’ radio talk show I host every Wednesday at 20:00 on Millenium Radio, the hottest topic I have ever handled had to do with the dressing of our Zambian women. I never knew how much discontent and unhappiness our men were harbouring on the subject.

 The way Zambian women are dressing is truly, “dressing to kill.” Our women are choosing tighter outfits that shape their bodies to an extreme fine detail to the point of arousing the imagination of even the most decent, religious and innocent man.

Women’s clothes are also getting increasingly shorter in the case of dresses and skirts. They also tend to have very penetrative slits that enhance visibility as they walk and clearly reveal the difference in skin shades as one looks further up their legs. The effect of this on men is enormous. Your guess is as good as mine.

Someone once said that, “we eat for ourselves but we dress for others.”  Women have taken this to a new level. There is clearly a puzzling competition among women to outdo each other when it comes to dressing and make-up. Each one wants to the first one to wear a certain dress or buy a certain type of shoe. In fact my experience has shown that one of the easiest ways to dampen a women’s mood and spoil her day is to fail to complement her on her looks. Some women have ended up having steamy sex with other men simply because they were complemented in a way their own man has never done.  

As a man, you can never tell a woman that her hair style is not looking good, it’s the unpardonable sin!, infact you are better off pretending you did not notice she had a new style. When she does something you really love you over- complement so that she realises that the previous one was not as appealing to you. Ok pardon me I am digressing from the topic.   But I must say one more thing, women hate to turn up at a party and find another women wearing their exact outfit, something that can never be an issue to any man! No wonder someone said you can never fully understand a woman.

When it comes to dressing some women dress the way they do because they understand what effect dressing has on men, they know that men are moved by what they see. Our ladies even change their step when in certain attire; the attention they can successfully elicit from men is enormous!

One theory which holds a lot of truth is that women also communicate through their dressing, they attempt to break the cultural barrier whereby they are not permitted to make a move on a man and therefore must maximise their ability to turn on a man to a point where he must do something about them! Simply from their looks.

Ladies must be wary that men will respond to them and treat them exactly as they portray themselves, some attire women wear in broad daylight, in certain public places are not fit for such occasions. Infact for Christians there is what the bible calls  the dressing of a harlot, meaning there is a lot a woman’s dressing says about her character.

Proverbs 7:10 says in the King James Bible “And behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot and subtle of heart.”  The New International Version says it better, “Then came a woman to meet him, dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent.”

There we have it women can be crafty, but sometimes their craftiness backfires on them. We have witnessed in Zambia increased cases of women having their clothes ripped off because they are either too short to too revealing, that is men protesting!  Some women think wearing too short clothes or too revealing attire is the art of seduction, no.

The proper art of seduction isn’t about revealing all, but knowing how to cover it all and yet make a man feel like he has seen it all!